This week, something came up at work, and I felt I need to put my opinion out there in a public place without forcing on anyone, such as by e-mail. So here we go.
Plausible deniability is the word of the moment. It’s not the best stance to take on something, but sometimes it is all you have. For example, my employees are college students, so that would but them in the 18 to 23 age bracket, with occasional outliers, which makes them “of age” with regards to voting, serving in the military, and being accountable for their own actions, but still “minors” in regards to their drinking age.
I’m employed at Residential Computing Connection, which is part of the Office of Residence Life at BGSU, and as a result, I’m supposed to make sure that the students on campus abide by the rules and regulations that the university has in place. Fortunately, I’ve never been confronted with an issue such as a fight or other altercation in which, as a member of the university, I need to make sure is resolved, either by contacting campus security or stepping in myself, and with any luck, I never will. If I am ever in a student’s room or walking across campus and witness something, I need to make sure the correct people know about it. While I may sometimes have issues with particular things at BGSU, I have buy-in to the university itself, so it’s what I feel I must do.
This is where the fact that I have student workers comes in. If they happen to be talking about something while at work, while not eavesdropping, I am prone to hear snippets of conversation; it’s just something that happens. The issue is if they happen to say something like “I was in my friend’s dorm room last night…” and the sentence then continues by listing some activity that is in violation of the residential living agreement, or some other federal, state, or local law, I technically must do something about it. While they may have some right about self-incrimination, it puts me in a situation I’d rather not be in. The same thing goes for events that happen off-campus, such as parties. While they may not be violating a residential living agreement, those federal, state, and local laws didn’t stop existing. In fact, their possible to have a harder time off-campus, as there isn’t the benefit of being caught by an RA, but by an officer. That’s not saying you won’t be confronted by an officer on-campus, but the changes come up off-campus.
I should also stop to say that I think that when college students gather together, they’re up to no good. Far from it, actually, but sometimes things happen. Hell, in my mind, my employees are angels compared to the other students that are out there. Okay, maybe they’re each 99% angel; it’s that 1% of each of them that I’m talking about. That 1% where they end up talking about a party they went to on the weekend and had a couple beers with their friends and everything was cool and then they went to a movie and then played Wii sports or whatever it is those kids do. That 1% where I know that they are 19 going on 20, and they mentioned at work that they partook of libations of which they are technically not supposed to. They weren’t bragging or boasting or anything of that manner, but just talking with a fellow employee about their weekend; that’s the weekend rundown I don’t want to hear.
At the same time, I don’t want a work environment where the employees feel that they need to tight-lipped for fear of getting themselves in trouble. Despite being a supervisor, I’m not trying to get anyone in trouble, but I do have to hold be accountable for their actions. I want my employees to have a sense of camaraderie, as that way, they’ll work better as a team. In fact, I know that many of them do things together on a regular basis, and that makes me happy.
How do I know these things? It’s simple: Facebook. That alone cause an issue, as I’d like for everyone who comes through RCC to add me as a friend, something that none of the students seem to have a problem with. However, what happens if I get invited to an event through Facebook or read something about an event that is similar to the one above? It is quite the conundrum. Personally, I make sure not to go looking for that information, even if they share the information with me via the news feed. The same goes with blogs, which, while not currently prevalent with my staff, will become more common as time goes on. If my staff want to share that information with me, it shows some sort of trust exists between us, which I would not go out of my way to abuse.
While writing that, I realize that it’s quite the opposite stance that I would take while in the office or on campus and heard something that might be questionable. I’m fine with that; as I said, it’s a matter of trust. When I’m in the office working, I’m fulfilling my contractual obligations with the university and due what I must; that’s why it’s my job. However, Facebook is not an extension of my job, but is instead an extension of my personal life, and as such, that’s how I determine what I must do. My website is personal, as are my instant message accounts. My BGSU e-mail is for work. Those are the distinctions I make, and they are mine alone, as there is not set rule regarding them.
In regards to being invited to a party or other event, such as through Facebook, I’ve sometimes wondered if they actually want me to attend, or if they simply invited everyone in their list. My knee-jerk reaction is to decline most invitations that are sent to me through Facebook, especially birthday parties, as I’d rather not put myself in a situation where I would have to be the responsible adult. However, there are those times when those restrictions (self-imposed or otherwise) tend to irritate me more than anything.
I feel that I should include that if I ever hear of anything the is self-destructive or may harm others, I would step in. That’s not an obligation of work or anything; that’s just being human and caring for other human beings.
If I happened to find out about something happening to or with students on campus, especially my students, I’m not saying that in every case it would be something that I would go tattle on to a department; it may be something that simply needs to be talked about in passing. As a supervisor, I feel it’s my responsibility to assist in the education of students who work for me. If that’s as simple as occasionally talking to them about any number of issues they may face as a student, so be it. If it means that they need an “adult” to talk to about something, I’m there.
So, what’s all this mean? Well, it’s something I had to get off my chest as I’ve been mulling it over since I left work. Some of this, especially being more than just a supervisor, I’m considering for the first time, as I realize that this job has the potential to turn into a career field that I enjoy. It’s also to mention that the camaraderie that my employees have is something I personally like to see, and makes me feel that, as a supervisor, I’ve done something right, even if it is to make sure they have a gathering that “is for RCC employees (THIS EVENT IS NOT IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM EXPLICITELY OR IMPLICITELY SANCTIONED BY RCC, BGSU, RESLIFE, OR ANYONE LIVING OR DEAD) and their friends.”
Touché.
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